Friday, June 21, 2013

Friday Fun: Lazy Summer Days

Cats:  The epitome of laziness!
Today is the first official day of summer, the longest day of the year.  However, most people celebrate the beginning of summer as the end of school, which happened a few short weeks ago.  And here in the Deep South, it almost always feels like summer already anyway!

So far this month, we have had lots of outdoor playtime, celebrated Father's Day, and had our first swim of the summer (pictures I don't have yet).  All this boils down to is some hot sunshine, tired kids (and tired mommies and daddies and grandparents!), some yummy summer refreshments, and a lot of fun, with more to come!

Carson being lazy...poor Maggie, he is twice her size!  My hard-working little girl!
 

Then Carson returns the favor by giving Maggie a ride in the covered wagon.
My sweet sunshine!

After a long, hot day in the sun, I tried a new recipe for a refreshing low protein (for Carson's sake) treat:  Strawberry Banana Smoothie!

Of course, Carson wouldn't even try it, but Maggie and I thought it was good!

Don't forget your shades!


It's hard to see what is going on here, but Carson and his Dada are enjoying time climbing on the hay bales!

A friendly Father's Day race between Carson and Papa Steve after feeding the horses.



Peaceful sleeping angel...summertime play is hard work!  lol

Friday, June 14, 2013

Embarking on a New Journey

I first want to apologize for not having my Friday Fun post up last week.  As you will read, I have had other things on my mind.

I love the word "embarking" because it makes me think of cruises, which is where I wish I was right now!  Somewhere south of here, on a tropical island, soaking up the sun, listening to the waves...ahh.  But...I'm not.  Oh well.

Actually, my new journey is taking me somewhere I have longed to be...HOME.  I have officially made the decision to leave my full-time working status so I can spend more time taking care of my family.  Not just Carson; my whole family, including myself.  I know there are lots of women out there who work with full-time careers, have a marriage, have a nice home, have children, and do it all.  I have always been one of those women, one who thought she could have it all.  Only I realized recently, all wasn't all it was cracked up to be.  There are parts of that all that I have finally learned I can live without, or at least want to try to live without. 

When Carson was diagnosed with autism in April, I was already feeling run down.  Maybe even since I went back to work after Maggie was born last year.  By the time I get off work, go pick up the children, get home, unload all the junk, get everyone settled in, cook supper, eat, give baths, fix milks, it's time for bed already.  I have no time for cleaning up, doing laundry, or relaxing myself.  On the weekends, I am so stressed out having both children by myself while Marty is out farming, while trying to clean up a week's worth of mess in the house, and it just started going downhill from there.  I got so exhausted.  Mommy needs a break.  I don't see how these women do it.  I have done it for a while, and it is not good for any of us anymore.  We need a break, the kids need a break, the grandparents need a break.  This life has become too exhausting.  I had to do something.

Carson's diagnosis was not the reason I made the decision, it just made the decision a little more obvious.  Knowing that he was going to need therapy gave me the motivation to give up my work life so that I could be with him at therapy.  So I could be with him and with Maggie at home.  So I could at least stay somewhat caught up on housework, and have more time to devote to cooking special foods for Carson to try, and new foods for us and Maggie to try as well, to try and live a healthier lifestyle.

This is such an opportunity for me.  I am still very sad inside about leaving my status here.  I have worked at this same job for over 12 years, and I LOVE it.  That is rare, I know.  My job has been my mission for most of my adult life.  I love caring for the needs of senior citizens, finding available help for them, providing activities for them, counseling them about insurance, delivering meals...all of that work has been a dream.  I have loved every minute of it.  I have learned so much over the years from all the people I have met, from all walks of life.  I grew up at this place, with these people.  I have been here since I was still living at home with my parents, before I got married!  This is like my second family.  It is very hard to think about not seeing them 8 hours a day.  Sometimes, coming to work can feel like my "break", but then when I have to get busy reality hits! lol 

But God told me one day a few months ago that I needed to let go of this place as part of my past.  I finally felt that I have a new mission in life:  raising my family, advocating for them, and helping others with similar situations.  I have spent so many years helping senior citizens, but my own family needs me more!  I can apply all these things I have learned about advocating to working for the best life for my children.  The second revelation was that God also reminded me of the old cliché:  "When one door closes, another one opens".  The catalyst is, the door has to close first, then the other one opens.  With my elementary teaching degree, if I ever want to apply for a job, I need to be able to get out there and work for it.  That would never be able to happen as long as I'm working full-time elsewhere.  I need time to get out and volunteer, substitute, do things in the community, get involved.  So my decision has many layers to it.

For now I have decided I will take the rest of summer off.  I will take Carson to speech and occupational therapies two days a week.  When school starts, if I get Carson into preschool as planned, I will work at my job part-time, indefinitely, while Carson is at school.  Fall is open enrollment, which is our busy season at work.  I really want to be able to help out, because I know they are going to need the help.  And it will help me too, transitioning.  But one day in the future, I know I will have to "cut the cord" completely.  I have to make peace with that.

This transition is frightening for me, but I am excited at the same time.  I look forward to focusing my attention on my family.  I think we will all be better for it.  It's the right thing for me to do at this moment in time.  I thank God for giving me the guidance and the strength and having patience with my doubts.  I also know that He will provide for all our needs, because my faith is in Him.  I am following His plan as revealed to me so far, and His path will lead me to the right places.  I am SO blessed and thankful for it!

Friends and family, I ask for your prayers, support, and advice as we make this transition to me being a new, sort-of-stay-at-home mom.  :)

Friday, May 31, 2013

Friday Fun: Random Silliness!

At the end of a very stressful week, it sure is nice to look back at all the pictures and at least remember the silly times that made me laugh!

Hello? 

The Cow and the Chicken are Maggie's favorite buddies.  She frequently gives us collections of things to hold, so this is Daddy's animal collection.

Wearing Nanny's glasses


Photography by Carson...at Walmart (Papa Steve, you made the blog!  or at least, part of you did!  lol)

Inspecting a lady bug...and talking to it

Why do boys always have to spit?

Bouncy castle fun at the autism support group picnic

Socks are my least favorite part of laundry

Icing fight with my brother on my birthday

Happy Birthday Mommy!!!

Here, put these on

Another Carson masterpiece.  Apparently, bugs can smile and say "Cheese!", because that's what Carson said when he took this picture.
TGIF!!!  Everyone have a great weekend! 

Friday, May 24, 2013

Friday Fun: Brotherly/Sisterly Love

 
As I was scanning over all the pictures from this past month, I thought about a theme that was relevant for this moment in time.  As Maggie is growing up and Carson is becoming more communicative, I love watching their relationship with each other evolve.  And then it started to remind me of growing up with my little brother.  You can see our picture on top of Nanny's piano on the far right...lol!
This month has been a really fun time for all of us.  Carson and Maggie have had many opportunities to play outside together.  Just look how much fun they have together, and the love and the sibling aggravation!
Sweet brother pushing her in the swing at the park.  Look at the happy face!

Grabbing...affection to him, aggravation to her!


What do you think is going to happen here?  Is Carson trying to run her down with his tricycle?

Taking a break (which lasted about 3 seconds!)

Every practicing gymnast needs a good spotter
Anything you can do, I can do...

My favorite...the love of a sister..."Car-Car!!!"  Wait for me!

I am happy that Carson and Maggie have each other, and I can't wait to see all the memories they will make.  I love having a brother, and I'm so thankful for all the memories we have growing up together.  It's nearer to my heart now because my brother (who is in the military) is home for a visit, and in a few days he will be leaving to go to Japan for a while.  I already miss him, but I am going to miss him so much more knowing he is so far away!  Thank God for all the great technology we have now to keep in touch!  Just having him here makes me think of all the (fun) times we have had, and making new memories with his niece and nephew.  Even making new memories for me and him.  I certainly will never forget this hand sanitizer he sprayed all over me and my desk and everything at work when he came to see me the other day!  Thanks for that!  Love you!

Ahh...the love between a brother and sister...never ends...:)  

Yes, I know, Eric, this is a terrible picture, but it is a smiley one!
(Going away party, Feb. 2010)

Wednesday, May 22, 2013

The Cost of PKU

I would like to share a little more information in honor of PKU Awareness Month.  I sometimes discuss other costs of PKU, but just realized I have not really explained the financial cost in detail.  I got my inspiration from recent posts by Kelly over at Littlest Sweet Pea .

If I had to insert a disclaimer here, it would be that all PKU families are not created equal.  Everyone has different needs, different insurances, and lives in different states where coverage and programs are not all the same.  And although most children Carson's age are picky eaters, not all of them are, and not all are as picky as Carson!  Also, there are thankfully several options available for formula and low protein foods.

Currently, Carson is covered under my insurance plan at work, which is pretty fabulous.  However, it is far from perfect for the coverage he needs. It does not cover his nutritionist visits (and they are the most important people in our lives!), which so far have been $46 per visit (we go twice a year).  And because Alabama does not have a policy to provide medical foods, unless you qualify for Medicaid or WIC (which we don't right now), we have to pay for Carson's formula.  The most important part of Carson's diet is his formula.  The formula gives him all the protein he needs minus the part his body can't process, therefore it is specially made.  He drinks the brand Phenex-2.  Presently we get one case a month of 6- 400g cans, which is about the size of a small can of powdered baby formula, in comparison.  My insurance pays 70% after a $50 deductible, leaving 30% for us to pay, which amounts to just over $130 per month!  This is our biggest expense.
   

I make him a loaf of bread about every 2 weeks, and it has several ingredients:

1 cup Wel-plan Baking Mix (made of cornstarch and wheat starch):  400g box for $9

1 3/4 cup wheat starch: CamBrooke Foods Wheat Starch is a 6lb box for $17.99 (I think one of these lasts me about 3 months)

3 tbsp Metamucil (I buy the largest container I can find, Original flavor and always brand name): 29oz container at CVS (which is where I had to buy it last) was $16.29

2 tbsp Coffeemate powder:  22oz for $4 at Walmart

2 tbsp sugar

1 1/2 tsp yeast:  Fleischmann's Active Dry Yeast 4oz jar for about $4.50

3/4 tsp salt

1/2 tsp molasses

Most of these ingredients last 3 months, 6 months, some maybe a little longer, so it's hard to calculate a total cost.  That comes to about $50 for everything, so if I bought everything 4 times a year, that's $200 (but it's likely closer to $100).  That's probably only a little more than most people who buy a loaf of bread at the store every week.  If I wanted to buy a low protein loaf already made it would cost $11.99 for ONE loaf from CamBrooke, plus since it is a cold ship item you are required to spend at least $50 minimum, then pay over $20 shipping on top of that.  See why I make the bread myself?  Plus it tastes a whole lot better!

The most used items in my house are CamBrooke's MixQuick, which I use to make Carson's chocolate chip cookies each week, and sometimes for pancakes.  A 6lb box is $34.49!  That is by far the most expensive food item I buy.  I use Chocolate Dream Dairy-Free Chocolate Chips, which I buy at Whole Foods in Birmingham, and they are about $5 for a 12oz bag (maybe twice as much as regular Nestle chips).  The other big food item I buy is low protein pasta.  He eats it almost every day.  I buy the Loprofin Fusilli from Nutricia North America, which is $11 for a 500g box.  A box of Great Value at Walmart, about the same size, might be less than $2, I don't remember exactly.  Carson eats a whole cup of pasta each time now, so one box does not last very long anymore.  These are his main staples.


Another comparison item, one I can buy at Walmart, is Biscoff spread.  This is his peanut butter alternative (which is much tastier than peanut butter!) and he uses it most days on bread to make a sandwich.  A 14oz jar is almost $4; in comparison, a bigger 18oz jar of Jif is less than $3.

Carson's only other sandwich of choice is a grilled cheese.  CamBrooke's American Cheese Slices are about $11.99 for a bag of 32 slices, versus the brand I buy for the rest of us, Velveeta, which would cost maybe $6 for the same number of slices.

The only precooked food I buy Carson is CamBrooke's Mini Pizza Pockets.  That should have been listed under his main staples as well!  The best comparison I could find is Totino's Pizza Rolls.  A bag of them, twice the size of one box of Carson's pizza pockets, was $3.29 at Target.  That contains 40 rolls.  A box from CamBrooke contains only 6 (obviously larger) rolls, for $9.99 per box.  One box lasts Carson 3 days (meals).  He eats them twice a week, so that amounts to $29.97 a month (3 boxes).

Most everything else he eats is typical stuff like we eat that we can buy anywhere, like cereal and fruit and vegetables.  But make no mistake...this is an expensive diet!

As I mentioned before, there is no assistance from the Alabama government on medical foods (which are provided to everyone, regardless of income, in many other states), nor is there any help for the special low protein foods he has to eat to fill his tummy without getting too much protein.  Insurance does not pay for those, much like a diabetic having to buy special foods (except much more expensive and much more volume!).

There is a bill that has been through Congress a few times but has yet to be passed or approved.  Every year since its inception the bill has been lobbied by various organizations supporting PKU and other inborn errors of metabolism who require such diets.  I believe the opportunity for the current session has already ended, but please click here to learn about the Medical Foods Equity Act .  Contact your local members of Congress and help support this cause in the future!